How to live more consciously? Advance your personal development through a targeted change of perspective and sustainably expand your own awareness.

Living more consciously, how a change of perspective can succeed.

What does personal development actually mean and what does it have to do with our consciousness?

How does one get through the great chaos that we call everyday life to oneself? Deep down to your own true self? To a place where life energy is constantly available, where every event is an experience, where we laugh from the heart and relax in depth.

I am talking here about genuine, lasting "joie de vivre", a love of life, childlike curiosity and openness, not a spontaneous smile or a moment of light-heartedness.

How do you find who you really are and what you really want amidst the demands of everyday life with all its supposed shoulds and needs?

Without becoming aware of yourself and the circumstances around you, this is nearly impossible...

Jens Corssen, an experienced psychologist and cognitive behavioral therapist who, in his role as a specialist in mental self-management, advises not only managers from the business and media sectors, but also professional footballers, and talks about a “basic attunement” within our society as part of his program “The Self-Developer”. He “earns his money from the fact that we humans reject what is.” The weather, the neighbors, the boss, the way our partner thinks or behaves. Freud calls this phenomenon “projections”, a defense mechanism that ensures that we attribute our own unbearable feelings, fantasies and desires to another person, object or even circumstance and pursue and fight them there by proxy. Our projections become particularly clear to us when we recognize the fact that we become angry at objects and circumstances. We stub our toe on the table leg, groan and moan “F** table!”. “Sh** weather, f** traffic jam, and work sucks too!” We are constantly upset, almost out of habit, and completely ignore the consequences this has for us and our environment. And how utterly idiotic this behavior is.

Rain, for example, on a camping trip planned well in advance, is neither our ideal nor what we wish for. But if we have decided to go camping in a region where rain is possibly to be expected, isn't it downright crazy to let it cloud our mood?

If you think about it more consciously, isn't it generally pretty crazy to let anything rain on your parade? This banal example can be applied to numerous situations in our everyday lives. Let's assume we already know that our partner has a tendency to be unpunctual. But we still get upset every time, feel unappreciated or are simply annoyed when he is late again for whatever reason. This very often leads to the same kind of discussions, with sometimes intense statements of disappointment or even complicated attempts to justify things and after a few years neither of the partners is happy with the outcome of these situations.

A whole conglomerate of various everyday situations, coupled of course with other frustrations from our work life and also our private and family lives, forms our “basic frustration” our “basic mood”. Many of us are so stressed at times that we are glad when the day, the week, the month or even the year is simply over. Some even wait for their lifes to be over. This may sound a little dramatized at first, but unfortunately it is increasingly becoming an everyday reality for many individuals.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), the number of suicides continues to rise. The space and energy we would have available to enjoy life are getting lost in this way. We are constantly bogged down in incessant debates, often only with ourselves. Debates about why this, that or the other cannot be different. Instead of concentrating fully on ourselves and changing our perspective. We have to learn for our own good, thar every time our partner is late, we're stuck in a traffic jam even though we're in a hurry or it's raining on our tent, this is an opportunity for us. The chance to acknowledge our feelings and engage with ourselves and our perceptions. And the chance to ask ourselves questions, listen to ourselves and observe exactly what these situations do to us.

How does it feel inside? What thoughts and feelings come up?

Do we already know these feelings? If so, from where?

Why is unpunctuality (or whatever problem) such an issue for us?

Asking ourselves these questions instead of simply acting out or suppressing the feelings that arise means leading a more conscious life. Being willing to deal with yourself and your individual needs instead of trying to change circumstances and others is a crucial part of personal development.

My mentor once said to me: “Imaginations are images that you place in front of reality”. In other words, everything we imagine are images that we place in front of reality. What is really important, however, is what reality is. And the current reality is that we are all far too preoccupied with what is happening outside of us. Dependent on the circumstances and behavior of others. Instead of becoming aware of the emotional processes going on inside us, looking at them, learning to understand them and heal them.

I firmly believe that many of us are paying for this with their happiness, and ultimately we are all paying for it with world peace.

No matter how much we succeed in retreating into our comfort zone or are able to expand it, the confrontation with the world and our pain will not fail to materialize. The wheels of life grind too reliably for even one soul to be spared the pain of being human. Our anger is an expression of this pain, in psychology a defensive feeling that stands in front of our grief and thus prevents it from being processed. This anger is nowadays becoming increasingly noticeable in society. We have thus missed some important steps in the development of human consciousness. Entire levels of mental hygiene and mental health. The other person, the weather and the traffic jam are not to blame for how we feel. Everything we have seen, felt and experienced and how we have processed that and reacted to it, what we have believed and stored as true for us, determines how we feel today. Therefore, instead of going round in circles with the same complaints and trying to change the outside, we can change how we react to the outside. Simply by starting to understand ourselves and paying real attention to our feelings. This is the necessary change of perspective.

Turning inwards to acknowledge these parts of our lives.

I`m convinced we speak of “self-liberation” because it is precisely in this exploration and healing where true liberation lies and the potential for honest personal change.

When we are no longer dependent on what happens on the outside, when the happiness we feel is no longer in the hands of the world, our partner or circumstances, but in our own. When the entire responsibility for our happiness consciously lies in our own hands, then we are free. Or at least a whole lot more liberated than the neurotic average person.

Free for the path to a harmonious life in which we become part of the solution. Bundled up in this struggle with life, the life energy of so many of us is stuck. In this struggle, we lose our zest for life and our joy of living.

This is why I founded Feal-feeltoheal. And because I know from my own experience that only a conscious approach to our own truth and our own being opens up the possibility of lasting change on so many levels of our lives. Only when we as individuals are able to allow our repressed parts back in, to actually feel our pain and thereby heal it step by step, can we finally live the full potential that a human heart naturally brings with it.

If this article has made you curios to take action and develop a new perspective on your world view and your reactions in order to free yourself from old habits, I look forward to getting to know you and help you redefining your truth...

Let's make the world a little bit better together!

Love, Peace & Namaste

Anja

Paradise is not a place. It is a state of consciousness. - Sri Chinmoy